“It is our choices that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.”
— J. K. Rowling
Do you believe that things in our lives happen by chance, or that they happen because of the choices that we make? Do you feel like the victim when things happen or don’t happen to you, or do you take responsibility for your choices that got you there?
Whether we have made good or bad choices (or decisions) they are always ours, no one can make them for you. The decisions that we make will affect our today and our future. Now I am not talking about the things that you or me can not control or do anything about. We can however do something about the choices we make in our lives.
I have made a few bad choices in my life thinking that the outcome would be different. Only to find out that I should have listened to my intuition and I would have been better off. Now that I look back on some of the choices I have made, I think myself ‘would I make the same choices today.’ The answer to that is a definite NO ! I would like to think that I would’nt. I try to use my experiences in life to guide me today. Hopefully we all do.
Sometimes when reflecting on the past I think to myself, if I had finished college, would my life be different? Of course it would! I would be working for myself or a firm as a Commercial Artist and my finances would be in better shape. I made the choice to quit going to college, and that wasn’t a very good decision. That is the reason I am not a Commercial Artist today. Not finishing college though does not make me a lesser person and what ever career or job I have chosen does not define who I am.
There are different choices I could have made in my previous marriage that would have made my children’s lives a whole lot easier. I have tried to quit thinking about would’ve, should’ve and could’ve. After all there is not any benefit in it for myself, my children nor my husband. I just have to make better choices from now on.
Then we make a decision about something we have to think to ourselves (I have learned this the hard way):
*How will my decision affect my future?
*What are the benefits for me (and my family)?
*Am I making this decision for me or because someone wants me to?
*Is this what is best for me right now at this time?
The exercise for today from the book, Achieve Anything In Just One Year: Be Inspired Daily to Live Your Dreams and Accomplish Your Goals was to observe the choices that I made throughout the day and determine if those choices were limiting me or nurturing me.
I can say with all honesty some of the choices I made today are limiting me. I noticed as I have for a while now, that I emotional eat. I didn’t do this before, but in the last year I have gained about 10 lbs. Not a good thing at all. I was eating healthy before, no cokes, sugar or white flour. I was eating more vegetables and fruit and happy about it. I also noticed that I tell myself that it is ok I will eat healthier tomorrow and start an exercise program. Tomorrow hasn’t come yet. Excuses!
When I tell myself that I will do better tomorrow and then do not, I am letting myself down. It is not healthy for my emotional or physical well being. I don’t sit around and beat myself up all the time. Well, let me be honest I do beat myself up about it on occasion. I need to get healthier for myself first and then for my family. I would feel a whole lot better. Then I would feel better emotionally and more confident about myself.
To accomplish this I can make wiser food choices and exercise as we know makes you feel better. I always feel better when I am outside walking or doing something. So if another year passes and I gain another 10 lbs then that would be the result of the decision that I have made.
What choices have you made today? Do you believe that those choices are limiting you or nurturing you? If so what are those choice that are limiting you and what can you do to change?
Til Next Time!